Nov 2, 2009

Why?

Why does God allow righteous women to miscarry or not be able to have children? I have friends who have experienced miscarriages, I have had several miscarriages, and I have many other friends who can't get pregnant. Why does God not allow righteous women the opportunity to have children while there are so many teen-pregnancies or unwanted pregnancies around the world.

Doesn't it seem beyond unfair?

Sorry to bring up such a depressing subject. It was just on my mind.

7 comments:

Katey said...

You know, I was thinking about this yesterday. And I will confess that I have found it not just unfair but confusing. In the end, I take comfort in the Atonement because Christ understands the heartache and eventually our bodies will be resurrected and work properly so we won't have to go through that again.

Rasmussen Family said...

It is just one of the things of life. Everyone has different trials and this is one of them. It is in our struggles that we grow:)

Laura said...

First, thank you for your comment.

Second, I have thought about this a lot. The only thing I can think of is that some women have so much to give that perhaps their mission isn't motherhood, or isn't motherhood YET. They have a mission that (though it sounds sacriligious to say) perhaps supercedes that other very special and important calling. This world needs their talents and abilities. My OTHER thought is that the rest of us are learning things through being moms that perhaps they already know . . . I really don't know. These are just a few of my thoughts on the topic. It is for certain (as I know you would agree)that we all have our struggles to learn from. I wish we could pick our struggles. Maybe we did??

Whatever THE ANSWER is, I stand with you in the feelings you have expressed. It doesn't seem fair, and so I HAVE to (and strongly do) believe that there is more (MUCH MUCH more) to being a woman than our ability to have children. Perhaps we undervalue ourselves . . . ???

maggie-t said...

Thank you all for your comments.

Krista said...

Maggie, You're such a sweetheart. Thank you so much for you comment on my blog and post here. I know these feelings are so tender and raw. Thank you for your willingness to think about these with me.

I really love the comments above. I firmly believe that there is so much for us to experience in this life, where we will learn truths and develop characteristics that will stay with us for all eternity. There truly is so much that women can give and we do have missions other than motherhood that are important for our own lives as well as the lives outside our immediate family that we will touch. Amen to Laura's comment! It is important to remember we have much to give and not to base our self-worth on one aspect of Heavenly Father's plan for us.

These comments have left me so enriched and inspired today. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom, everyone!

Courtney J said...

This exact thing has been on my mind. I have two friends that are single and pregnant. There are families out there that are wanting a precious baby and these girls just "accidentally" got pregnant. Thanks for being honest with your thoughts.
Love you

Cindy said...

I believe bringing or trying to bring children into the world is the closest thing to the veil we can do here on this Earth. It can be close. Very close to our Father in Heaven. Very close to our Father in Heaven. What a gift! And what (if not to get closer to our Father in Heaven) is life all about? I think trying to discount or undervalue motherhood in any way shape or form would be wrong. However, undervaluing those who cannot bear children in this life and who do many other noble wonderful useful things would be wrong.Thinking less of any of God's children in any of the paths of life would be wrong. You're right God does allow all that you talked about. God's in charge and that happens on the Earth so he must allow it. But why? Because man all have their free agency and that is part of God's plan too. I'm sure it pains God more than we (as mortals) can imagine to see those babies mistreated in teen pregnancies and such. Kind of like it pains our Earthly parents when we make bad choices. I don't know all of God's purposes and reasons though...no one who lives on this Earth does. It is our test of faith here on Earth to not know. I long for the eternities lately where I can have as many babies as I want with no pain and no complications. I know God is a just God. I know God loves you and sees what your going through and through the atonement has already felt all the feelings you have and has already mourned with you once and as you go through it, will mourn again.